January 4 - 10 | 2016

Why your twenties matter and how to freak about them NOW! 
The hysterical guide. Thank you, Dr. Jay

Dr. Meg Jay is the author of "The Defining Decade: Why your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now"

I got the book as a gift for my 24th birthday, but didn't quite manage to finish it until now (post my 25th birthday). Why so?

Picture is not my own, although it looks very convincing with the N cup! Courtesy: namesnotashley.com

Picture is not my own, although it looks very convincing with the N cup! Courtesy: namesnotashley.com

The author, Dr. Jay, a clinical psychologist tells us that the twenties are the years where we most rapidly and effectively grow and shape our lives. Contrary to popular belief, the author states, "thirties are not the new twenties" and the decision you make now will reflect how miserable (or not..) you will be in your thirties. She gives a sense of urgency, time is running out and twenty-somethings have to take strong hold of their lives! 

Peep her TED talk below. 

I had (and maybe still have) quite a problem with this book. Frankly, it made me nervous. Being in your twenties is not easy and there are only a few people I know that live by the rule "Twenties are for having fun, serious stuff after 30". 90% of people in my community in their 20s are hard working, hard hustling (yeah, I said that), building a career path AND partying at the same time. I don't appreciate the sense of urgency Dr. Jay gives. While sleeping through your most energetic years is stupid, freaking out about what will become of you is also counterproductive. I believe there can be a balance between ambitions, actions and youth.

"The Defining Decade" is an interesting read and Dr. Jay uses personal examples and that of her clients to portray different scenarios. While I'm not completely crazy about it, I understand "the message". 

You can find the book on Amazon. A good review on the book by another thwentysomething - read here :)